I was at Oundle in the mids and it was tough. There were cold baths every morning and the food was awful. As far as I can see, the point was to produce people to run the British empire: if you could survive five years at public school, there was nothing the Kalahari desert or Antarctica could throw at you. Sex was part of the culture of the school, but it was all pretty ingenuous. It wasn't a culture of gang rape; it was boys getting crushes on other boys.
Aggressive Girls and Clueless Boys
Short Stories: The Young Girl by Katherine Mansfield
In the '80s, nobody talked about beating off; masturbation was something to accuse the creepiest, most maladjusted kids in school of practicing. In Parenthood , a young Joaquin Phoenix credited as Leaf nails the part. He sneaks out of his bedroom with a furtive look, a mysterious grocery bag under his arm, and a monosyllabic response to questioning. His mother Dianne Wiest is bewildered at his behavior, until she gets her hands on the bag and pulls out a copy of Wet, Wild and Ready with "XXX" helpfully printed on the label. But leave it to the all-knowing Keanu Reeves to clear everything up: Phoenix has been masturbating, a lot. And that's okay.
It took forever because I didn't know what I was doing and when it finally happened, I didn't know what it was, just that it felt good. When my parents confronted me about the rising water bill, I didn't masturbate again 'til high school when I discovered porn. I was one of the last ones off and I didn't even have the mind to clean up afterwards. I was like 10, riding around my grandma's pool on a pool noodle, using it like a horse. When the orgasm happened it scared me so bad I got out of the pool because I didn't know what happened to me.
Increasingly, girls are aggressively pursuing boys—in high school, middle school, and even earlier—in numbers we never saw in the past. It was just a routine check. When Susan and Tom gave year-old Josh his first cell phone, they told him that they would occasionally look through his text messages. But Susan was completely unprepared for what she found that Saturday morning. She waded through a couple hundred short, inane messages, more than slightly confused by the shorthand that kids use when texting.